Alangizi Video a Shame To Women – Sikazwe

WOMEN for Change executive director Emily Sikazwe says the leaked video of a half-naked woman explicitly demonstrating several love-making postures to a bride-to-be is a big embarrassment to women.
And Phaebby Chisenga from Zambia Women Writers Association says it is very sad that there are women who attend kitchen parties just to go and make a fool of someone who is trying her every effort to teach a bride to settle and build her home,.
Commenting on the two minute video shot during a traditional all-female counselling session and posted on social networking sites, Sikazwe said there was need for Zambians to preserve their nudity and not put it out for everybody to see.
“As a country, we have a culture that says that we will preserve our nudity and not put it out there for everybody to see. It is so unfortunate that our young people including boys have had access to that video,”Sikazwe said. “Culture is also dynamic, and knowing that anyone of us can carry a phone and take those videos and pictures, I think traditional leaders should also modify the culture and tradition. What I am saying is that, if you know that anyone with a phone can afford to take such a video or picture, then there is need to modify the way we do things.”
Sikazwe said there was also need for the people that took the video to be serious and not post unnecessary things on social networking sites.
“Those who took the video and decided in their own wisdom to put it on Facebook should understand that their action has affected the public. Let’s get serious about some of the things we post on social networking sites like Facebook because we are Zambians, we are Africans,” Sikazwe said. “And so, I am appealing to them not to think like that because their action has affected society. We apologise to our children, it should not be like that. As a mother, I apologise, that is not what our culture is meant to be… to corrupt the young people’s minds.”
And Chisenga said the people who posted the video were indeed ‘Stupid fools’.
She said the world is turning upside side.
“One would wonder if the person who leaked the video is sane. It is very sad that there are women who attend kitchen parties just to go and make a fool of someone who is trying her every effort to teach a bride to settle and build her home,” she said. “This made me very sad and angry. Mrs Iress Phiri (the founder of Zambia National Traditional Counsellors Association) and any other matured women have every right to be mad with whoever leaked that video. What was the sender trying to achieve? Instead of benefiting from the whole scenario, she decided to insult and disgrace the counsellor to the bride.”
Phiri on Friday described those who leaked the video as “stupid fools”.
The video was taken from what appears to be a hall and posted on social networking sites like WhatsApp and Facebook by unknown people at the traditional counselling session but who could be heard giggling and laughing in the background as the bare-breasted and short-clad middle-aged woman spotting a hairstyle, commonly known as freeze, sensually gyrated her chitenge-wrapped waist in tune with the sound of the drums being beaten by another group of women seated on her left side.
As the video starts, shouts of exclamations and amused giggling could be picked, especially when the woman puts both her hands on the floor before raising her persistently gyrating waist whilst dipping and lifting her projected backside in an up and down circuitous motion.
Shortly, the place that looks like a classroom owing to the desks that could be picked out in the footage was filled with ululations and applause when the woman placed her right knee and hand on the floor but with her left foot slightly touching the floor and took a sideway sensual posture.
Maintaining her squatting and astride position, the woman who at times expertly clasped her hands in front of her chest then changed her waist-gyration tempo from a fast one to slow motion with the bottom of her torso suspended in mid-air amidst more applause and two women; one dressed in a striped dress and another wearing a pair of blue jean trousers, went over to her and threw some money.
Someone in the background could be heard saying one of the women had thrown a K20 and the woman intensified the dipping of her waist while keeping her legs wide apart in a highly seductive and pushy manner until the video that has gone viral on the internet comes to an abrupt end.
But Chisenga said she had of late noticed that kitchen parties were being attended by young single ladies she called girls.
“As long as they’ve bought a present, but that’s not the case. The kitchen parties we attended years back were only meant for married women or someone who fully understands what marriage counselling is all about. When you take a present in front of a bride, you will tell her the use of the present you have presented to her, and contribute a few words of hope to her, but in this case, it is different, they (girls) just go there to disgrace elder people who are trying to help a bride to settle in her marriage,” said Chisenga. “The world is turning upside down. The counselling process has been there from way back in memory, and nothing of such videos could be taken. People are abusing this creature called “new technology”. These social networks were meant for sharing ideas, chatting and for fast communication and not for gossiping and sending stupid materials. Things that are meant to teach. Shame to the person who leaked that video. May he or she repent, because that same traditional session might help him/her in the future.”