This is an email sent by a Lusaka married woman seeking advise from readers
“I have been married for more than a decade to a lecture at one of the highest institutions of learning. My life has not been easy. I have been beaten, cheated on and insulted all my life. My husband can even tell me to my face that he has two other children outside wedlock. I investigated and found that the son was not his but he has a daughter. I love this person so much but maybe i made i mistake getting married at just about 19 years old. Now that am old he tells me am not awesome anymore. You know just like men we try to find out if something better than your husband can love you especially when you have lived with the beatings and promiscuity and impotence for along time . He uses Viagra on other women to hide his weakness in bed. He has always been weak but i stayed.
I tried to check if i could be liked by other men and they really do. You know just as a man thinks he can get what is missing at home , a woman can do even more and when she starts she can string them along just for sex and money. Us married women are not cheats but i mean we have feelings and am not bad to look at. i have been told so by so many and i know it myself.
Men even if you can cheat try respecting the wife at home or divorce them because your best friend or workmate who knows your behavior might just be :F…: your wife whenever ever you are away and you wonder why she is not interested in you or what you do any more.
They say ‘impiya shilachinja amano yabantu’, i now believe it. When we were poor, no woman would look in my husbands direction, but now that he has money, he thinks he is a god. Everyone knows him in the pubs in Lusaka. I receive unknown calls from people each time he he out about his behavior.
He is a selfish person, i dont know how i would have survived if i was not working. He dose not give me money for home yet he destroys the little that a buy with my meager salary. He has money to buy the best of cars but he goes and buys himself one for $ 2000 and is so envious of what the wife has because it is better than his. His sabotage ranges from hiding vehicle parts and slashing car tyres. He does alot of shit in his car but i never revenge.
To make matters worse my husband has been practicing witchcraft in order to get rich.
HELP ME AM DONE begging because he keeps on making the same mistakes .
PLEASE DO NOT PUBLISH MY NAME”